Stories From My Inbox…

So I hope everyone is recovering from their chocolate overload in the last few days! Let’s see what we have in store this week…

Women’s Health

If You Want A Deeper Relationship, Ask Your Partner These 10 Questions

5 Sex Staples That Will Subtly Spice Up Your Love Life

How To Make Yourself Squirt During Sex

7 Sexologist-Approved Sex Toys Under $20

Men’s Health

​10 Reasons You Should Have Sex Right Now

This Is the Kind Of Porn Women Want to Watch​

This Is When Women Fake Orgasms the Most

This May Be The Simple Key To A Happy Sex Life

Can Watching Porn Really Screw Up Your Relationship?

Gwyneth Paltrow Just Gave 3 Incredibly Great Tips For Anal Sex

Cosmopolitan

6 Married Men Reveal the Secret Turn-Ons They Would Never Tell Their Wives

The 13 Best Lubes You Need to Try Immediately

3 Women Get Brutally Honest About Why They Love or Hate Facials

There’s Yet Another Important Reason to Wear a Condom and It’s Not What You Think

6 Awkward Sex Stories That Will Make You Swear Off Dating

5 Sensual Sex Positions for Deeper, Long-Lasting Orgasms

8 Things I Wish I Knew Before Ever Going Down on a Woman

9 People Share Their Weirdest Sexual Encounters

 

Stories From My Inbox…

So what do we have in store this week?

Women’s Health

7 Things You Should Never Use As Lube

7 Guys On What It Was Like To Catch Their Girlfriends Masturbating

6 Things You Should Know About Boob Jobs—From Women Who’ve Had Them

Here’s How You Can Get A Free Vibrator Today

Will This Super-Common Habit REALLY Cause Problems In Your Relationship?

’10 Kinky Things My Husband And I Have Done To Spice Up Our Marriage’

8 Stories Of Vacation Sex Gone Horribly Wrong

Buzzfeed

26 BDSM Fantasies You Might Not Want To Read In Public

So, You Can Get A Unicorn Dildo Now, If You Want

18 Bizarre Sex Toys That’ll Confuse The Hell Out Of You

Stories From My Inbox…

So what do we have in store this week?!

Cosmopolitan

Possibly the perfect gift for avid book readers this Christmas!

An audiobook vibrator has been invented and erotic fiction is about to get a whole lot more erotic

Quiz: Are You Better at Making Love or Having Sex?

I have a ‘friend’ who wanted to give me a necklace like this and it wasn’t his blood he wanted to use! Maybe they forgot to paint it red when they were done making it!

This “Dripping Blood” Choker Appears to Be Dripping Something Else Entirely

Quiz: Is He Shady AF?

It’s always good to keep finding new interests so you don’t get stuck in a rut…

7 Kinds of Porn You Don’t Watch — But Might Love

These 8 things separate average sex from great sex, according to guys

7 sex toy mistakes you’re making without even knowing it

TheBerry.com

12 Women Confess Their Wildest Outdoor Sex Experiences

 

Do you consider sexting cheating?…

With the invention of so many personal contact apps it has never been more easy to find someone for a quick fuck or a bit of sexting fun.

It’s a relatively new problem in the relationship world, previously you had to worry about your partner physically finding someone to cheat with but now they can just click a button on their phone and find someone where ever they are.

Work lives are often stressful nowadays, no one ever seems to plan far enough ahead so you are always chasing that deadline and the work doesn’t stop coming.

Add into that a lot of people now travel for work, its late, your other half is asleep back home, you’re in need of some loving and you could have a wealth of willing partners at the touch of a button.

So what do you do?

You could just find some porn on the internet but sometimes you need that human interaction, to know that someone is there with you.

So you turn to the app and before you know it your phone is filled with dick or boob pics and wanking videos.

But is it cheating?

I met a guy a few years ago and I knew from the start that he didn’t want to commit to me and that he saw other girls but I was so into him it didn’t matter. Any of his time was better to me than none at all.

It didn’t stop me being jealous of the other girls though. It didn’t stop me imagining him doing the things we did with the others and making me lose my mind over it all.

Why did he go to them when he could have just come to me? Why wasn’t I good enough for him, why did he need the others?

And the real kicker, what if they’re better than me and that’s why he chooses them over me. That is a really unhealthy one.

When it comes to sexual performance we all have our tricks and skills, it doesn’t necessarily make us good or bad – we are all different.

We are all a product of the experiences we have had, if all your sexual experiences are good or great you’ll be good or great.

If all your sexual experiences ended in 3 seconds flat then you really don’t have much experience to learn from, you aren’t necessarily bad you just need to put some effort into learning new skills.

If you have a partner who wants to experiment with you and learn all the things you enjoy and teach you all the things they enjoy then you really do have the best of both worlds.

I guess what I’m clumsily trying to say is, it depends on your relationship and your partner.

Me personally, I would rather he woke me up when he needed someone than go to someone else. If it’s just porn, fair enough everyone watches porn at some point but if he needed that human contact and he didn’t come to me for it then that would be a problem for me.

To me that means there are bigger problems lurking in our relationship and I would be worried that he is losing interest. But then I’m a overthinker, or a woman as we are also known.

On that subject, we hate it just as much as you do, trust me. Overthinking is exhausting, it messes with your mind and it makes you feel like a fool. We don’t do it on purpose it’s just the way we’re wired up.

What a lot of women struggle to understand is the ability men have to literally not think of anything. I’ve always envied that, when you say “hey what are you thinking?” and they say “oh nothing.”

Sometimes that means literally nothing, blank mind, no nagging little voices reminding you of every conversation you had over the whole of your relationship, the time 10 years ago he made a comment that sounded like your arse was fat, no OMG I look horrible from this angle I hope he’s not looking, no did I turn the oven/ iron etc. off or remember to empty the washing machine, was that report at work due today or yesterday, did I remember to book the meeting room, I think I’m getting horny again, is he falling asleep, should I wake him up, that carpet needs hoovering, is that a cobweb hanging off the light fitting, should we paint the room, I think we should change the sheets tomorrow, damn I forgot the milk…..

So you see what I mean about it being exhausting inside a women’s mind.

I would much rather be lying their blank minded, sexually satisfied and fall asleep than have all that running through my head.

Or indeed being sent off to sleep by a smiley face, kiss and a ‘Sleep well babe’ text message after some naughty fun when I’m away from home.