Yesterday was a tough day. My friend found out the man she was in love with and had been in a relationship with for a year and a half wasn’t the man any of us thought he was.
It turned out she was 1 of 15 women he was in ‘love’ with and not only that he is a nasty piece of work who threatened to ‘disappear’ her if she told his wife about his lies.
So I just wanted to say, I know relationships and love are easily found nowadays. I could probably download a whole bunch of apps and have a train of men at my door within hours wanting to have sex with me but life is about more than that.
When someone gets hurt by someone they love or care for that stays with them for a long time and changes who they are and how they interact with people they meet.
You can feel worthless, suspicious, have trust issues, push people away to protect yourself and never let people get close to you.
I just think that everyone would be better off if we were all more honest. If you want to have multiple women/ men in your life be honest about it and let those people make those choices.
If you’re in a relationship and are falling for someone new then tell your partner and talk about it, you might save your relationship or you might hurt them but it will hurt less than finding out you lied and one day they will respect your honesty.
There is no need for anyone to actively go around destroying people’s lives with their selfish behaviour, the world would be a better place if we all thought a bit more before we acted.
Everyone has scars from the battles life has thrown at them but we don’t need to make it worse.
If everyone took more care then maybe more people would be able to find their ultimate happiness in life and the world would be a nicer place.
Treat everyone as you would wish them to treat you, with care, love and honesty and you will find the good people who return your sentiments.
You are not useless. You are not hopeless. And no matter how scared you are, you will never be alone. And deep down, somewhere, in the part of you that decided the good days and your happiness and your health were all worth fighting for, you know that, too. Hold onto that knowledge. It will see you through the worst.
I don’t think people love me. They love versions of me I have spun for them, versions of me they have construed in their minds. The easy versions of me, the easy parts of me to love. Who’s going to love the girl that can’t stop crying? The girl that hurts herself? The girl that is losing control? The girl that is so sad she can’t get out of bed? The girl that keeps pushing everyone away? Who’s going to love the monster in me, who’s going to love me now?
The best people possess a feeling for beauty, the courage to take risks, the discipline to tell the truth, the capacity for sacrifice. Ironically, their virtues make them vulnerable; they are often wounded, sometimes destroyed.
Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.